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Learning Resources
学习资源

This page is the learning resource for learners to refer to for the step-by-step instructions on the topics we discuss.

 

本页是学习资源，供学习者参考我们讨论的主题的逐步指导。

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What Are the Five Love Languages?
爱的五种语言：认识你表达与接受爱的方式

The Five Love Languages concept comes from Dr. Gary Chapman’s book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts. It explains that people feel loved in different ways, called “love languages”:

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  1. Words of Affirmation – Caring words, encouragement, praise.

  2. Acts of Service – Practical help and support; “actions speak louder than words.”

  3. Receiving Gifts – Meaningful presents that show thought and care.

  4. Quality Time – Full attention, deep conversation, shared activities.

  5. Physical Touch – Hugs, holding hands, gentle touches that feel safe and warm. Wikipedia+1

 

There is no “better” or “worse” language – just different ways of feeling loved.

 

「爱的五种语言」源自盖瑞．巧门博士的著作《爱的五种语言》。他提出：每个人感受到「被爱」的方式都不完全一样，这些方式就叫作「爱的语言」：

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  1. 肯定的言语（Words of Affirmation） – 赞美、鼓励、温暖的话语。

  2. 精心的服务（Acts of Service） – 实际帮忙与付出，用行动说「我爱你」。

  3. 接受礼物（Receiving Gifts） – 充满心意的小礼物，代表被记得、被重视。

  4. 精心时刻（Quality Time） – 全心陪伴、深入谈话、一起做事情的时光。

  5. 身体的接触（Physical Touch） – 拥抱、牵手、拍拍肩膀等安全温暖的肢体接触。

 

没有哪一种「比较好」，只是表达与接收爱的方式不同而已。

Take the Official Love Language Quiz

To discover your love language, you can take the official online quiz here:

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👉 Love Language® Quiz


https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
 

The quiz is easy, insightful, and free. After you finish, you’ll see which love language is strongest for you.


想知道自己的「主要爱的语言」是什么，可以先做官方的线上测验：

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👉 官方爱的语言测验 Love Language® Quiz

https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language
 

测验简单又有启发，而且是免费的。完成后，你会看到自己最主要的爱的语言。

The Five Love Languages – At a Glance

(Each point is learner-facing: “If this is your love language…”)

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1️⃣ Words of Affirmation 肯定的言语

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If this is your love language…

  • You feel loved when you hear appreciation, praise and kind words.

  • Criticism or silence hurts more than people realise.

 

You can say / 你可以这样表达：

  • “Thank you for…”, “I’m proud of you”, “I’m grateful you did that.”

  • 写卡片、讯息、语音，真诚地说出感谢与欣赏。

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2️⃣ Acts of Service 精心的服务

 

If this is your love language…

  • You feel loved when people help you – doing chores, solving problems, supporting you.

  • Empty words without action feel disappointing.

 

You can do / 你可以这样表达：

  • Help with tasks, run errands, fix practical problems.

  • 主动分担家务、买饭、接送、帮忙处理对方觉得烦的事情。

 

3️⃣ Receiving Gifts 接受礼物

 

If this is your love language…

  • You feel loved when someone gives you a thoughtful gift – big or small.

  • It’s about heart and meaning, not price.

 

You can do / 你可以这样表达：

  • Keep notes of their favourite snacks, colours, things.

  • 在特别日子或普通日子，送上一些小礼物、手写卡片、对方喜欢的小物。

 

4️⃣ Quality Time 精心时刻

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If this is your love language…

  • You feel loved when someone gives you full attention.

  • Distractions (phone, multitasking) make you feel unimportant.

 

You can do / 你可以这样表达：

  • Schedule device-free time: a walk, coffee chat, movie night, deep conversation.

  • 安排「只属于你们」的时间：放下手机、面对面聊天、一起散步或做活动。

 

5️⃣ Physical Touch 身体的接触

 

If this is your love language…

  • You feel loved through hugs, holding hands, leaning on each other, a pat on the back.

  • Cold body language or rejection can be very painful.

 

You can do / 你可以这样表达：

  • Hugs, holding hands, sitting close, gentle touches that feel safe and respectful.

  • 给予安全、被尊重的肢体接触：拥抱、牵手、轻拍肩膀或背部。

 

(Always respect personal boundaries and consent / 记得尊重对方的界线与同意。)

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